Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Sorry for not posting

I have been too busy this month working on a new online magazine for API. If you're a member, check out theattachedfamily.com. If you're not a member, I recommend it for all parents who want to turn their parenting into a "profession," meaning you like to keep up on the latest news, information, and research.

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

The Natural Ebb & Flow of Marriage

My husband and I are getting along again. It turns out he has ADD. Would've been nice to know four months ago when he found out, but better late than never, huh? It seems when the doctor told him, he didn't feel it was important to tell me or anyone about it because "it's an overdiagnosed diagnosis," he said. True that it may be in children, but I don't think so in adults.

This explains a lot! It means that when he forgets something...like wearing his sleep apnea CPAP...that he's not being lazy. And it means that when he doesn't follow through with something...like cleaning up some mess...that he's not being mean. It means that he just has trouble remembering to do things because it's the way he is.

In light of this wonderful development -- which I am not saying sarcastically -- I've decided it's OK to be the CPAP police and to kindly remind him every night to put it on. So far, our relationship has done a complete turnaround. He's happy and well-rested, which decreases his forgetfulness, and just a sweet husband again. And while it's a little inconvenient for me to check on him at night, it's worth it...knowing that he's not "making" me do it out of malice.